Values: Ignore them at your peril!
Our society rarely asks us 'What are your values & do you embody them?' Maybe it should.
We live busy lives that often don't give us time to connect to who we really are. If we aren't properly aware of the core elements that make us complete then are we really being true to ourselves? Are we able to create the life, deep down we want to live? Maybe if we all took some time to consider our values then the world we live in could be a better reflection of what we all truly desire. We would probably find many of our values remarkably similar: for example, honesty, happiness, friendship, love, caring, empathy, passion etc.. I recently had the opportunity to reflect on my values. I applied to attend a residential workshop to focus on the vision of a project I was intending to implement. In preparation I was asked what my top 10 values were and then asked to write them down. Some were easy to identify, others seemed hidden and only emerged after a few hours of thought (I have included them below). It felt good to document them, to acknowledge and value them. I believe I live these and I have for a long time, and some more than others. The process was useful. I could see that I'm connected to them and there is no feeling that I contravene them (and if so only temporarily). I took this list to the workshop in the countryside 40 miles from Berlin where I joined 12 other social entrepreneurs all involved in the same event. There we explored our values (and future visions) in a range of ways, using the safe environment and a supportive group of facilitators and participants. The organisers the Akademie fur Visionautiks designed the 10 day session in a way that enabled us to explore our inner selves. Using coaching, dialogue, presencing (Theory U), art, presenting, dance, performance, mirroring, and testing inner strength though fire walking, arrow breaking and steel bar bending (the last two were done by placing the ends at the base of your neck then breaking..) we found ourselves opening up, talking deaply, expressing ourselves and proudly living the values we have. One of the key 'takeaways' from the time there was that there is more to ourselves than we think. I thought I understood my values and lived them. Mostly I did, though from my time in Germany I found I connected to them much more and now feel that they provide me with more direction than they did before. Using more 'alternative' ways to explore who we are and what the values mean on a deeper level certainly was a powerful and effective approach. I am now more confident and connected to those things that make me 'tick.' I know that this should ensure my happiness and contentment with how I deal with life. It should also align my energy to do the things that I should be doing, rather than waste my energies on the things that my values are not aligned with. This raises the question: Should we as individuals in society more actively reconnect to our values? This is a subject that would take another blog to write, though it is worth briefly reminding ourselves of; how such a simple process could begin to create a happier soceity where people are aware of not only seeking to live their values but also enable others to live theirs? How about spending a few minutes writing down what your values are. It may have a profound effect on you too.In no particular order the values I consider most my most important: Empathy, compassion, honesty, equality, openness, humility, connectedness, friendship, passion and enlightenment.
The image above is me talking at the Vernisage about my Vision and how my values created it.







